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Posted by: bbwsouth Mar 3 2011, 01:46 PM

Just wanted to let you know about a new venture I have started in Newbury. I will be organising social events eg parties, pamper days etc for ladies who are a size 16+ and the men who adore them.
It is often hard for bigger girls to feel comfortable socialising in regular venues so I am aiming to provide a size friendly environment where everyone is respected and welcomed.
If you would like to attend one of my events please visit my website www.bbwsouth.co.uk and become a member (free!) to keep updated on the progress of my project, make new friends and maybe even find love!!
Thank you for allowing me to put this out to some more people in Newbury. I have had such positive feedback so far and want to welcome as many people as possible.
Kind regards
Sarah

Posted by: Bofem Mar 3 2011, 03:29 PM

You'll do well round 'ere me dear

Posted by: TallDarkAndHandsome Mar 4 2011, 12:21 PM

Perhaps a diet is in order? I don't mean to be rude but smokers are told to stop smoking so perhaps overweight people should stop eating so much???

Posted by: Roost Mar 4 2011, 12:39 PM

and if you're a overweight smoker, you're screwed!

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 4 2011, 12:45 PM

Is size 16 over-weight?

Posted by: NWNREADER Mar 4 2011, 12:56 PM

Not if you are married to her.......

I suppose we should not really poke fun, as for many it is a serious issue, and diet is not the sole - or core - issue.

Posted by: TallDarkAndHandsome Mar 4 2011, 12:59 PM

Yes. There BMI would probably classify them as obese. All I am saying is that overweight people are as much as a burden on the NHS as smokers but smokers pay extra tax and chubbers do not. Perhaps if you are clinically obese you should pay an extra tax on'fat' food?? I know this is not 'PC' but why are one section of society treated differently to others?

Posted by: dannyboy Mar 4 2011, 01:04 PM

I was wondering if there was a Lingerie catalogue myself.

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 4 2011, 01:08 PM

Smokers might be a burden on the NHS, but they pay far more tax than they receive in care. Overweight is more complex than simply being gutty. It is the people that can control their weight that are abnormal. We are programmed to seek food, unfortunately modern living standards conspire against natures will. Meanwhile; even 'overweight' people need clothes to dress too, even if they are on a diet.

Posted by: Bofem Mar 4 2011, 01:10 PM

Is this cover for some sort of chubby swingers night? I think we should be told

Posted by: Rosewinelover Mar 4 2011, 02:00 PM

I can not believe how rude some of you have been in replying. Ever heard the old saying 'If you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say nothing at all'.

I would not class a size 16 as 'fat' or 'overweight' in most cases. TDH you really do have a thing about overwight people and the NHS.....find that really odd, considering it is probably more liklely costing the NHS more on helping drug/alcohol abuse than anything.


Good Luck with your new venture Sarah.

Posted by: dannyboy Mar 4 2011, 02:02 PM

TDH is a smoker I believe

Posted by: Rosewinelover Mar 4 2011, 02:06 PM

He is, and he begrudges paying the tax on it sooo much. He should give up and get fat then he hasn't got anythng to moan about.

Posted by: TallDarkAndHandsome Mar 4 2011, 02:55 PM

I do not begrudge paying tax on it. I do however thing that smokers are treated as 'lepers' and that overweight people are fawned upon and told that it's not their fault by do gooders. They put the stuff in their mouths. Thats why they are overweight. This subject does actually 'get my goat' rosewinelover and I respect you. Again I ask Smokers more than pay for their diseases. A gastric by pass is still I believe free on the NHS if you are fat enough? In fact some people are encouraged to put MORE weight on to qualify.

Posted by: Rosewinelover Mar 4 2011, 03:07 PM

I think you should start a new thread about this (if you wish) because I think this is really unfair to the ladies (1st ever) post.

Posted by: Simon Mar 4 2011, 03:15 PM

What confuses me is that when a student posted on here a while back he received a lot of abuse about forums not being the place to promote/advertise his small business (copying video to dvd) and yet this posting has received nothing but support.

I have had a look at the website and this seems to be a business too

Is it one rule for one and one for another on here?

Posted by: TallDarkAndHandsome Mar 4 2011, 03:15 PM

You are correct and I apologise if I have unfortunately upset anyone.

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 4 2011, 03:27 PM

The student was promoting a service that was possibly illegal.

Posted by: Simon Mar 4 2011, 03:39 PM

The student was promoting a service to copy home movies from VHS to DVD - thats not illegal

Posted by: NWNREADER Mar 4 2011, 03:41 PM

It is, as the copyright license on the Video would have explained. The DVD created is a pirate copy, regardless of continued use of the video.

Posted by: Simon Mar 4 2011, 03:46 PM

No it was HOME movies - ones recorded on a video camera of your family friends ect. There is no copyright on that.

Not that it really matters as he was not getting stick for it being possibly illegal, people were going off on one about this is not the place to advertise your business.

I do not know any of these people but thought i would mention it. I felt sorry for the student at the time as he didnt deserve the remarks he got

Winge over

Posted by: dannyboy Mar 4 2011, 03:49 PM

well, you'd have to be pretty daft to be offering to copy any other kind of VHS tapes.

nudge nudge, wink wink...

Posted by: TallDarkAndHandsome Mar 4 2011, 03:51 PM

I thought we were talking about chubbers?

Posted by: Simon Mar 4 2011, 03:52 PM

A chubber VHS?

Posted by: pinkfluffyclouds Mar 4 2011, 04:42 PM

WOW unbelievable comments form you TDH I am surprised. I am overweight and I do not constantly eat. I have a sandwich or salad for lunch and probably a child's portion for my dinner. I don't eat cakes or chocolate and only have one cup of coffee per day and the rest of the time it is water.

As for you being a smoker YOU STINK literally really stink and the smell of a person who is or has been smoking is one of the worst smells to me and yes I am an EX SMOKER of 5 years and am very proud of that but don't you dare tar all overweight people with the same brush about being obsessive eaters.

I wish this venture good luck.

Posted by: JeffG Mar 4 2011, 04:46 PM

So if someone copies their home movies from VHS to DVD, they are breaching their own copyright?

Posted by: TallDarkAndHandsome Mar 4 2011, 04:51 PM

So you eat nothing and are overweight? Interesting. Perhaps you should exercise then? You must be overweight for a reason. As for me stinking. Lovely comments. I expect I don't have BO though like most overweight people.... Perhaps when you smoked you were not overweight and since you have stopped you comfort eat????

I have nothing against you or overweight people. You are just confirming my point that it is better in this 'society' to be an overweight 'chubber' than a 'puffing billy'. And the 'puffing billies' pay through the nose.

Posted by: pinkfluffyclouds Mar 4 2011, 04:58 PM

I am actually crippled with arthritis and therefore can not exercise so yes my obesity is down to not exercising... not overeating as you keep assuming !!

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 4 2011, 05:14 PM

No.

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 4 2011, 05:15 PM

I didn't say it was.

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 4 2011, 05:19 PM

It's called being a human being, but beyond that, there are conditions like hypothyroidism, HRT, polycystic ovary syndrome , genetics, etc.

Posted by: TallDarkAndHandsome Mar 4 2011, 05:19 PM

I don't exercise much and am not overweight... perhaps its just that you have a 'slow metabolism' - thats the normal excuse. Genuinely sorry though about your circumstances with arthritis. I do know how bad that can be.

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 4 2011, 05:22 PM

...which gives you the moral right to insult people?

Posted by: TallDarkAndHandsome Mar 4 2011, 05:23 PM

Again. People are always quick to defend the overweight but smokers are treated like pariahs. Just confirming my point Andy Capp.

Posted by: NWNREADER Mar 4 2011, 05:28 PM

Not having an encyclopaedic knowledge of every posting since the beginning of time, I bow to those that do......

You can do whatever you like with 'home videos'. I still prefer super-8, myself

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 4 2011, 05:29 PM

No one said anything about smoking until you had already had been rude, and as it happens, smokers do stink. I rarely meet anyone with genuine BO. And one I did recently, was 'skinny'. I stopped smoking because it is expensive , stupid and smells. Not to mention dangerous. I can live without ever smoking a cigarette.

Posted by: pinkfluffyclouds Mar 4 2011, 05:31 PM

I used to be a size 6 and then the arthritis got progressively worse and the exercise less and less and the weight piled on so I have been thin and I am now not nothing I can do about it....... but I chose to smoke that was the difference for me it was my choice as it is yours. I apologise for saying you stink as I am now tarring you with the same brush not all smokers smell of stale cigarettes but you can't insult others when you don't know their circumstances.

Posted by: Strafin Mar 4 2011, 05:34 PM

Care to back that up with some figures? Unfortunatly those who are stupid enough to smoke suffer from all sorts of health problems far earlier anf for much longer than those of us with the sense not to. Also you cost millions of pounds to clear up after, millions in lost productivity and millions ion damages to property where you make everything stink, and think it is OK to have a crafty one out the window, or in a doorway. The only thing that is good is that natural selections means the stupid people who choose to smoke end up in a box quicker than the rest of us.

Posted by: Strafin Mar 4 2011, 05:35 PM

Yes they do, as do their clothes their possesions and their families.

Posted by: Strafin Mar 4 2011, 05:38 PM

The point about the studednt was that his business was illegal in as much as it wasn't registered, and he was not paying tax on his earnings. My point at the time was also that I did not think the forum should be used for promoting a business, however the majority (at the time) disagreed so I accept that people don't mind, so haven't made the same point about this one.

Posted by: NWNREADER Mar 4 2011, 05:42 PM

Businesses do not have to be 'registered, and there is no tax liability if annual taxable earnings don't cross the threshold. Many (students) work without paying tax perfectly legally.

Posted by: Strafin Mar 4 2011, 05:43 PM

Which I do believe was the "pro" argument at the time, and one that I accepted.

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 4 2011, 05:45 PM

Smokers cost NHS ~£3b; smokers pay ~£9b.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/7654153.stm

I don't smoke, but I do walk on the cracks of the pavement.

Posted by: Strafin Mar 4 2011, 05:46 PM

I just had a look to, seems like a border line dating/fetish site to me!

Posted by: betsy Mar 4 2011, 05:53 PM

Posted by: user23 Mar 4 2011, 05:53 PM

Not if they own the copyright, no.

Posted by: betsy Mar 4 2011, 05:55 PM

To get back to the original subject. Good luck with your venture Sarah. If the NWN has administrators I don't think they are working very well.

Posted by: Berkshirelad Mar 4 2011, 06:50 PM

Thus reducing the costs to society in terms of pension, etc.

Posted by: Strafin Mar 4 2011, 06:57 PM

True.

Posted by: JeffG Mar 4 2011, 07:49 PM

Sorry, that was meant to be a rhetorical question, from the department of the bleedin' obvious, since if someone makes a home movie, they own the copyright and can do what they like with it.

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 4 2011, 10:41 PM

Unless it is of something that is 'copyrighted'!

Posted by: spartacus Mar 4 2011, 11:22 PM

Mrs Spartacus is a chubber in denial... (Water retention problems, heavy bones, time of the month (Really luv? ALL four weeks??!), slow metabolism, I only eat rabbit food and selected dairy products (yeah,... like milk chocolate and six bowls of sugared Alpen ))

But perhaps I need to remind myself daily of that old adage that Rosewinelover has mentioned, about keeping gob shut... (I'll pass on the fact that she's used a double negative, so we are in fact allowed to say something at all apparently) I'm reminded of a variation of the old joke where a husband and wife are getting ready for bed. The wife is standing in front of a full length mirror taking a long hard look at herself in the buff....

"Y'know luv.." she says..."I look in the mirror and I wonder where the woman I once was has gone... All I see is an old woman. My face is all wrinkled, my boobs are sagging down to my waist, my bum is hanging out a mile and I've got fat flabby arms and legs that are all cellulite and wobbly..." She turns to her husband and says "Please tell me something positive to make me feel better about myself..."

He puts down his book and thinks about it for a bit... Then, in a soft voice says "Well.... There's nothing wrong with your eyesight luv..."




I splurted out a similar comment to my missus several months ago for a joke when see asked a similar question..... she did NOT see the funny side!! The bruises went within a few weeks though...

Posted by: moon Mar 5 2011, 02:11 AM

Great, Feeders and Feedees nights in Newbury. And you can record them on home video, transfer it to DVD and send it to Channel 4! Might get the first 'Great Big Fat Feedee Wedding', get the Jumbulances ready!

Posted by: Squelchy Mar 5 2011, 08:01 AM

Ab Fab quote:

"You don't understand sweetie, inside me there's a thin person trying to get out....."

"just the one?"

Posted by: pinkfluffyclouds Mar 5 2011, 10:46 PM

I assume Mrs Spartacus does not come on the forum !!!

Posted by: Squelchy Mar 6 2011, 09:16 PM

Only if the housework's done and the tea things cleared away.

Posted by: spartacus Mar 6 2011, 09:26 PM

Nah.... She doesn't read this stuff and doesn't take an interest in what I do on here..... I'm a secret forumite...

She probably thinks I'm on the PC looking at 'pron' for fatties....

Posted by: panda Mar 7 2011, 10:22 PM

and more

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 7 2011, 10:29 PM

None are me and look at my replies to TDH. Meanwhile; what about your vitriol towards Simon Kirkby? You have posted NOTHING to show why you are justified in posting as you do.

Posted by: Simon Mar 8 2011, 12:13 PM

Posted by: Rosewinelover Mar 8 2011, 12:16 PM

Thank god she doesn't after the awful stuff you have wrote about her!

Posted by: Bofem Mar 8 2011, 12:22 PM

Thinking about this, size 16 can mean a multitude of things.

Clearly, these ladies need vetting to make sure they're big enough. Perhaps they could hire a 'chubby checker'?

Posted by: Bloggo Mar 8 2011, 12:30 PM

I would need a brave man to do that job. Twist again anyone?

Posted by: spartacus Mar 8 2011, 12:53 PM

It's something I did last summer

Posted by: Bofem Mar 9 2011, 05:40 PM

All together now....."and round and round and up and down we go again"

Posted by: panda Mar 9 2011, 06:05 PM

It's funny the way you all get annoyed at the things i post on here. Isn't time you all looked at the way you are treating this topic. It's not nice and i think you all should be ashamed of yourselves.

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 9 2011, 06:18 PM

Some of us are still waiting for you to back up your slating of Simon Kirkby, although I do agree with you here.

Posted by: Cognosco Mar 9 2011, 06:48 PM

Hello Pot........

Are you going to make sincere apologies to Simon Kirby?

Posted by: panda Mar 9 2011, 06:54 PM

?????????????????

Posted by: Strafin Mar 9 2011, 07:36 PM

Thing is though, whilst mostly insensitive, the majority of posts on this thread are opinions, thoughts and feelings on the topic itself. The vitriol you spew out is just verbal diarrhoea with no point meaning or worth.

Posted by: panda Mar 9 2011, 07:45 PM

Sorry I forgot, the only opinions that count are the group of six that use this forum

Posted by: Cognosco Mar 9 2011, 07:54 PM

And we are still waiting for revelations on Simon's crackpot ideas?

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 9 2011, 08:11 PM

The only opinions that count are when they are argued well. All you have done is to demonstrate what you think of Simon Kirkby and accuse him of things that you have failed to back up. Your posts up to now are largely a waste of forum space.

Posted by: panda Mar 9 2011, 08:14 PM

A waste of space for the regular six that are on here???

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 9 2011, 08:16 PM

No. A waste of space for the many more that read but don't post.

Posted by: panda Mar 9 2011, 08:18 PM

yeah right

Posted by: Cognosco Mar 9 2011, 08:28 PM

Need more be said?

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 9 2011, 08:29 PM

Yes right.

Now: are you going to explain why you think Simon Kirkby is crackers or not? Some of us are eager to hear your views - if you can.

Posted by: Cognosco Mar 9 2011, 08:31 PM

yeah right

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 9 2011, 08:32 PM

That was what I was thinking.

Posted by: panda Mar 9 2011, 08:32 PM

6 members and 18 guests is that what you consider as many more

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 9 2011, 08:43 PM

18 is 3 times 6; what do you regard as 'many' more?

Anyway, are you going to justify your (up to now unjustifiable and unreasonable) outbursts to Simon Kirkby or not? We are waiting.

Posted by: panda Mar 9 2011, 08:52 PM

more than 18 for a town the size of Newbury

Posted by: Sidney Mar 9 2011, 10:10 PM

So, back to the fat birds ..... If there was a "new venture" for ladies size 10, there would be uproar !

Posted by: panda Mar 9 2011, 10:17 PM

Like I said most of you are very rude about this item and I think you should be very ashamed

Posted by: Sidney Mar 9 2011, 10:22 PM

I am not in the slightest bit ashamed ! True, there are people with genuine reasons for being overweight but the majority are just over indulgent - pure and simple. Some people smoke, drink, take drugs or overeat - pretty much all of us have at least one "vice".

Like I said before if there was a slim ladies club there would be a public outcry (from overweight people)

Posted by: NWNREADER Mar 9 2011, 10:23 PM

I absolutely agree

Posted by: panda Mar 9 2011, 10:24 PM

So you think calling people fat birds is ok do you??

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 9 2011, 10:27 PM

So? Do you know it is rude to be off topic?

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 9 2011, 10:28 PM

Do you think it is OK to slag off forum members without justifying why?

Posted by: panda Mar 9 2011, 10:28 PM

thats it Andy, try to justify it

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 9 2011, 10:29 PM

What are you talking about?

Posted by: NWNREADER Mar 9 2011, 10:30 PM

I agree, Andy. Do not change the subject

Posted by: Sidney Mar 9 2011, 10:32 PM

About as OK as calling drug takers - dregs/druggies/chav's
.........as OK as calling smokers - stinking/ashtray

Really ! Get over it - sticks and stones

Posted by: panda Mar 9 2011, 10:33 PM

So do you think it's ok to call people fat birds??

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 9 2011, 10:35 PM

No and I haven't. Indeed, I tried to stick up for the larger person early in the thread.

What about what you called Simon Kirkby - a forum member - what about what you called him?

Posted by: panda Mar 9 2011, 10:37 PM

Remind me, what have i called him

Posted by: panda Mar 9 2011, 10:39 PM

and i wasn't talking about you

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 9 2011, 10:46 PM

A liar?

http://forum.newburytoday.co.uk/index.php?showtopic=1191&view=findpost&p=35852

Posted by: panda Mar 9 2011, 10:51 PM

So what have I actually called him???? Please tell me Andy

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 9 2011, 10:51 PM

I just have. What do you mean by us 'believing his stories'?

Posted by: panda Mar 9 2011, 10:52 PM

No you havn't

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 9 2011, 10:55 PM

OK, now I know you haven't got a good record in explaining yourself (it must mean you are a councillor! ), but what did you mean by us 'believing his stories', if you were not accusing him of lying?

You also called Simon Kirkby being economic with the truth. made worse by not explaining why.



http://forum.newburytoday.co.uk/index.php?showtopic=1203&view=findpost&p=36417

Posted by: panda Mar 9 2011, 11:06 PM

I do not call anyone names like your forum friend sydney. So I hope you will take back your post that said I did call Simon names. It's just not true. What i do think is that when people like sydney say names like fat birds, it puts other people off that want a good debate. I think that's maybe why you dont have many people on here.

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 9 2011, 11:09 PM

I did not accuse you of calling him names - it is much worse than that - you called Simon Kirkby (a forum member) out as a liar.

Posted by: panda Mar 9 2011, 11:13 PM

That is what you put. I have not called him anything

Posted by: Sidney Mar 9 2011, 11:17 PM

I have yet to see YOU have "a good debate" on this Forum - infact it is constant bickering and nit picking that puts people off. You didn't have to balls to outright say you thought Simon was a liar, you just implied it, it's there in black and white. You are badgering certain members of this forum for no apparent reason, in an almost childlike pestering kind of way. My comment "fat birds" was a shock tactic to divert the thread back on topic - once you have of course finished whinging.

Posted by: panda Mar 9 2011, 11:21 PM

Well if that's your excuse

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 9 2011, 11:23 PM

Then explain what you mean by us 'believing his stories'. If you deny that your calling him out as a liar, then I know one thing: you are indeed, the liar, and one that doesn't have the guts to either admit it - nor explain it.

Derivatives of 'fatty' is rude and unpleasant, but calling someone a liar, especially in public, is far worse behaviour.

PS - I will certainly apologise to you if you would subsequently prove me wrong.

Posted by: panda Mar 9 2011, 11:28 PM

it is simple a question. Do you believe his stories. I did not or have not called your friend a liar.You keep saying I shouldn't have a go at forum members, but you have a go at me. I am also a forum member. Can you tell me what the difference is.

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 9 2011, 11:34 PM

Yes (in good faith, or until someone can refute them); should I not?


So what do you mean by 'believe his stories' and what do you mean by him 'misleading' us?


I'm having ago at you calling someone a liar (and being economical with the truth) without any supporting information. Your denying that you are calling him out as a liar is the proof I have to accuse you of being one.

PS - Simon Kirkby is not my friend beyond that as a member of this forum. I do hope Simon hasn't been misleading us, but if you know different, now's your chance to tell us.

Posted by: panda Mar 9 2011, 11:41 PM

Show me where i called him a liar. show me. I said I asked a question the question is do you believe his stories. You have given me your answer, thankyou. It's a pity noone gave me an answer when i first asked. I know you are sticking up for your friend and I would do the same. but please do not keep saying that i called him a liar. I didn't

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 9 2011, 11:55 PM

Explain what you meant by these quotes, and I'll call it quits.





To me you are calling him a liar. They can't mean anything else. Actually, you have even questioned me. What do you mean by 'do you honestly believe his stories'? Are you saying you think I might have been dishonest?

Posted by: panda Mar 10 2011, 12:11 AM

ok he is allways talking about self managment but on our allotment I dont know anyone who is in favour of it. He talks about when he set up the allotment society. The tenents that didn't want to join were cast aside and the ones that joined were dictated to because he was chairman. He wanted to build a society shed, only so he could put it in a competition. He keeps saying that he could save £100.000, this started off as £40.000 at one stage. This is all my opinion and i may be wrong but things just dont add up. In my opinion he just wants power over the allotments. Now I am going to bed. Maybe chat tommorrow.

Posted by: Sidney Mar 10 2011, 09:23 AM

I don't need an excuse ! I work with people who sit at their desk every day with a mouse in one hand and food in the other. By 3pm their topic of conversation is what they will have for tea, and what they will watch on TV. Don't get me wrong they are lovely people, but when I go outside for one of the three cigarettes I smoke a day, one of the aforementioned "fatties" will have a "pop" at me without fail. I of course, have to keep my mouth shut, because I wouldn't want to be "offensive". But, they are allowed to comment on my habit. So like I said before we nearly all have a vice, trouble is some people have trouble accepting this.

Posted by: panda Mar 10 2011, 10:36 AM

two wrongs dont make a wright

Posted by: TallDarkAndHandsome Mar 10 2011, 11:58 AM

Hit the nail on the head and that is why I raised it. Smokers are pariahs and 'stink'. We contribute a net £6 billion a year in taxes (after deductions for our obvious ill health). Obese people are fawned upon and told it's 'not there fault'. They are 'big boned' and have a 'slow metabolism'. You cannot say it as it is and just say - you eat too much (which more often than not they do) as you will hurt there 'feelings'. Smokers of course don't have feelings and are leopars. Obese people are a major burden on the NHS. Just as much as smokers are and they do not pay any extra tax.

Posted by: Bofem Mar 10 2011, 12:43 PM

So scrap the NHS and leave them alone. It's none of anyone's business is it, whether I want to smoke 20 Marlboro or eat 20 doughnuts

Posted by: TallDarkAndHandsome Mar 10 2011, 12:48 PM

I agree Bofem but people DO make it their business with smokers. It's a matter of what's seen to be ok 'to have a go at'.

Posted by: NWNREADER Mar 10 2011, 12:57 PM

While being PC is not my strong point, it is an individuals right (as opposed to wright) to be treated reasonably. OK for a 3rd party complaint, but if the so-called victim doesn't care a fig then the issue is not clear cut.

Maybe bbwsouth was offended and now fears to come back on. Maybe the debate around the 'banter' is accepted as good publicity, so worthe the price. Maybe she is laughing her socks off.

No-one should speak for the victim unless they are unable to stand up for themself, otherwise if someone objects then they do it on their own behalf.

Posted by: dannyboy Mar 10 2011, 01:02 PM

Did anyone ever suffer from passive eating?

Posted by: TallDarkAndHandsome Mar 10 2011, 01:56 PM

You see what happens when you refuse them food!!!

http://uk.lifestyle.yahoo.com/food-drink/8-most-terrifying-cases-of-food-rage-blog-39-yahoo-lifestyles.html


ye gads...

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 10 2011, 02:26 PM

My clothes used to stink if my mum did a fry-up before my venturing out on the town!

Posted by: Strafin Mar 10 2011, 05:48 PM

As I said before smokers cost far more in tax than just the NHS costs. I'm not defending the self centred obese either, but smokers are far worse.

Posted by: Sidney Mar 10 2011, 09:52 PM

Even better have both

I'm with TDH all the way. I bet if I started a "smoking venture" you guys at the NWN wouldn't let me advertise it on the Forum ?????

Posted by: Biker1 Mar 11 2011, 06:27 PM

Yep, there's the cost of clearing up their filth also.

Posted by: Turin Machine Mar 11 2011, 10:21 PM

lets just gas all fat, smoking or drinking people and have done with it !

Posted by: Sidney Mar 11 2011, 10:31 PM

There will be no-one left

Posted by: blackdog Mar 12 2011, 12:25 AM

The perfect solution to global warming.

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 12 2011, 11:05 AM

What I suspect is the case, if smokers stopped smoking and everyone started eating 'sensibly', there would be people out of work and the government would have to get tax from somewhere else. I also fear we could have food shortages (seeing as processed food is one of the components of obesity), which would also put prices up.

Posted by: bbwsouth Mar 12 2011, 12:02 PM

Yes I am deeply offended by the general response to my post.
I am sorry if I offended anyone by posting it.
I started the venture because a size 16 friend of mine refused to ever come out as she always felt very self concious and had no confidence. I started it merely as a way of encouraging larger ladies to get out and about; see that they could get out and do things, maybe meet men, make new friends, start looking after themselves more, joining the exercise class etc
It certainly is NOT a fetish site and I fail to see how that was suspected. Men who striclty find women who are a size 8 are not considered to have a fetish, so why are men who like ladies who are a size 18?
Having read this whole thread through I now understand exactly why my friend feels the way she does. I suppose being six foot tall, size 10 feet and a size 24 I am a total freak in all your books and should be gassed immediatly before I become a burden on society.
I apologise again if I have offended anyone by posting and therefore ask the administrators to delete the thread.
Thank you to those who wished me luck, but I am now re-considering whether the venture is worth it after this response.
Thank you fellow newbury friends for making me feel very sad.
Sarah

Posted by: panda Mar 12 2011, 12:15 PM

Sarah, I am very sorry the way that other people have responded to this post. Let me assure you that you will always have my support and if i can help in any way i will. pm me if you think i can help

Posted by: Cognosco Mar 12 2011, 12:31 PM

Take no notice of us cynical old lot? If we can poke fun of anything we always will? You certainly have not offended me and I am sure no one meant to offend you? You obviously think it is a good idea so go for it and I wish you luck. Nothing ventured nothing gained? As long as you have your health and are happy in life then that is the best we can ask for.

Posted by: Andy Capp Mar 12 2011, 12:36 PM

I don't think you should let a few people on here deny a service that possibly many people would find useful. Like it or not, people need sizes that you would cater for.

Posted by: Strafin Mar 12 2011, 12:51 PM

Brilliant! Support from you? That's the worst thing on the whole thread!

Posted by: panda Mar 12 2011, 01:01 PM

So no apology to Sarah just a snide remark. Thats why there are not many people who use this forum. This forum could be a great way to give out info from all sorts of people in Newbury but i think they look at this and think no way do they want to get involved with it

Posted by: Cognosco Mar 12 2011, 01:14 PM

Unfortunately life is not full of sweetness? Just look at the remarks you made about Simon on another thread?
No good getting all upset if forum members have a view that disagrees with yours? If you are unable to take the banter that comes your way on the forum then, yes, don't get involved. Give as good as you get? If you have something to say then say it, just remember though others may be totally opposed to you and show it in very different ways but hey that's what a forums all about surely?

Posted by: panda Mar 12 2011, 01:19 PM

I agree but there is no need for rudness

Posted by: Strafin Mar 12 2011, 02:30 PM

What should I apologise for?

Posted by: gardeb Mar 13 2011, 10:15 AM

Unfortunately Sarah there are a number of people on this forum who see it as their right or duty to be offensive to others. Its not a particularly friendly place to be sometimes.

Posted by: Bofem Mar 13 2011, 10:18 AM

Sarah, I think the moral of the story is not to be naive on these forums.

I remember on another site, a woman pushing her cancer charity fun run, which opened up a can of worms about whether cancer charities are worthwhile causes. Naturally, she was upset as she was doing it to honour a family member.

Facebook would have been more appropriate so you have control of content and can target your audience through advertising. So I wouldn't spend too long being offended, just learn from this and move on.

I hope your venture works out for you....but beware of white knights with black eyes!

Posted by: Strafin Mar 13 2011, 11:05 AM

Come on then Gardeb and Panda - what do I have to apologise for? Once again it is the ones who claim to be whiter than white who are throwing the accusations around and bullying people.

Posted by: panda Mar 13 2011, 12:04 PM

that

Posted by: Strafin Mar 13 2011, 06:48 PM

Why?

Posted by: panda Mar 13 2011, 07:11 PM

I know why there are not many people who use this site now and to be fair i dont blame them

Posted by: Cognosco Mar 13 2011, 07:15 PM

Could it be because they do not totally agree with everything you want them to?

Posted by: panda Mar 13 2011, 07:22 PM

its because of people like you. but then again you wouldn't see that

Posted by: Cognosco Mar 13 2011, 07:25 PM

No I do not see that? But I would like to be enlightened if your would care to?

Posted by: spartacus Mar 13 2011, 07:25 PM

Sarah,

I assumed that you and possibly your potential customers might have <ahem....> thicker skin?


Don't take things so seriously for goodness sake.... And just because you might not have received wholehearted endorsement for your venture from a small number of posters on this site, I would suggest that is a pretty poor reason for carrying it through if there's a market for it..... Let's face it.... while I might not be tempted to shop there, my missus might...

Posted by: Strafin Mar 13 2011, 07:36 PM

Another question avoided by Panda then. I would have thought people are more likely to stop using the site because of you and your daft, irrational, bullying and downright rude comments.

Posted by: panda Mar 13 2011, 07:37 PM

your a joke

Posted by: Strafin Mar 13 2011, 07:39 PM

I can spell.

Posted by: Cognosco Mar 13 2011, 07:49 PM

Sophisticate open minded debate that?

Posted by: Strafin Mar 13 2011, 08:02 PM

It takes all sorts.

Posted by: Sidney Mar 13 2011, 09:17 PM

If that doesn't scream dating site I don't know what does ?

Posted by: bbwsouth Mar 14 2011, 11:05 AM

uh yes ten out of ten it does offer dating.....
My comment referred to a fetish comment.

Posted by: Strafin Mar 14 2011, 05:32 PM

So out of everything that has been posted my comment about the look of your website is the only comment you expect an apology for? By the way you haven't mentioned it before, but Panda has. Mmmm and Panda has only posted on this thread and the one about the allotments. Are you Panda?

Posted by: Exhausted Mar 14 2011, 07:25 PM

If you stick your head above the precipice by advertising what is a profit making concern, against all the rues, expect to draw incoming fire.