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So you are suggesting if there was a dagger the kid would have thrown that? It was nothing more, in all likely hood, than a little tizzy in which some kid goes "WELL YOU WANTED THIS LAST FLAPJACK SO MUCH YOU CAN HAVE IT MWWHAH" and threw it. If he was stopped from throwing a plate I'm sure the dinner ladies could keep such a lethal projectile as a flapjack at bay.
You are surmising as I am. We both are suggesting things to back up our arguments, nothing more, nothing less. Hypothesising is all part of forum life but the truth of the matter is neither of us know what actually happened; we can only draw conclusions by what we've read or what was said.
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I think it's just fair to say you believe in complete accountability (that being, if something goes wrong it's always someones fault), and I don't think that's always true, especially when it comes to something as complicated as the human mind and social interactions p
I believe in accountability as near as possible.
Even with the human mind there is always somebody to blame. If you are religious then you can blame God for the individuals faults, if you are atheist then it would be down to your DNA or genes.
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Involved how though? I am not debating you were a good or bad parent; you were probably very good, but when you are not there as a parent/helper and the kids are alone at lunch, or they are whispering things in class to each other, a lot of it goes unheard. Parents are not normally allowed in classes, at least not during 2002/2007 when I was at school. During the OFSTED reports all of the idiots and morons in the class shut up for that week, amazing what someone else watching in the room does for the general attitude..
Oh, I don't disagree with you here. We can't know everything as parents or teacher, but what we can do is try to observe, read between the lines and give advice where possible. People that are given good advice and helped where possible usually end up as good rounded kids.
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I had very little guidance growing up for a variety of reasons and I too ended up alright and I have no-one to thank for that aside from myself. Yes it's of course helpful if someone is there to guide but generally, without any guidance, a good kid will make the "right" decision and a bad kid would make the "wrong" one.
Yes, you make a good point. There are many kids that have grown up in appalling conditions and with bad authority teachers but ended up good decent kids, while others have grown up in "perfect conditions" (as we see from outside) and have turned out bad. I could hypothesis about this but this isn't the place for that.
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I agree and if you're happy then that's the main thing
That is what it boils down to; for all of us.