QUOTE (xjay1337 @ Oct 7 2011, 12:04 AM)
Naming and shaming isn't really cool. If you wanted to make your point you wouldn't have tried to shine a spotlight on the people who made these god awful comments.
Am I not allowed an opinion? There is one thing I hate more than rude people (as in the arrogant, stuck up aristocratic type of people who walk around looking down their crooked nose at people from the seat of their big 4x4) and that's people who
don't speak their mind, or people
who are too scared/worried of what society says is OK to say - as long as it's not hugely insulting to a group of people (so nothing racist or hatred inciting) it should be said.
Calling some woman ugly is not really rude, it's my opinion. Likewise if someone was to call me ugly, that's their opinion and it's only after repeated namecalling by people/persons who are supposed to be my friend would I get offended. Someone calling me something on the internet generally does not annoy me, nor would it hurt me if I jumped to conclusions about how someone went and parked, logged onto an internet forum and found that in a off-the-cuff post they included the word "ugly". I'd probably laugh!
Much like JayJay said... It can't be personal since you are unknown.
Plus the fact I was quite peeved off by this woman's actions lead me to making heat-of-the-moment remarks. It was nothing to do with her being a woman as I am normally very respectful of women and don't judge a book by its cover. If it was a bloke I'd have probably said the same thing. Hopefully that wasn't a sort of feminist dig (because I get the feeling if it was "ugly guys" your post wouldn't have been made..) But anyway, sorry it wasn't quite P.C enough for you.
Anyway, some people take life far too seriously. I try and inject a little bit of humour into every post I make. It's not often it'll go all serious and straight talking. Some people, on the other hand, treat every post, sentence and letter as fact and will blindly disagree with everyone, or be almost Christian-like (no offence to any lovers-of-Jesus on here) and try to FORCE their opinion down your throat with a sharp stick (probably a pitchfork of some kind).
It doesn't help that there are quite a few "members" who actually belong to the same household, whether it be brother and sister, husband and wife, or any combination of the two...so they turn it into a sort of personal internet playground (to be stupid in). It also wouldn't surprise me if there were people who used more than 2 accounts to create e-arguments for their own entertainment. Also I should let you know I have no idea what this "other" forum is that you mention (so I can only presume I haven't created a false identity) and I do not use any other accounts. I only signed up because I've been reading the forums for quite a while and decided I'd like to chip in as well! Check IP logs with admins should you not believe me.
The general level of this forum is quite mature and it's only inevitable that a bunch of middle aged men and women on a local town forum will end up talking about politics and that will be the main end of the forum. Also, with greying hair/hair loss generally tempers can get a bit lairy. Because once you turn 40, what else is there to do?
For a small town forum this is quite nice actually.
I'm a great neighbour. I am quiet, keep to myself, love cats and even take the rubbish out!
I'm sure you are - I love cats too!
I only 'named and shamed' because Strafin questioned whether women had indeed been called 'ugly' and 'hideous'.
I am no feminist (I fear some women may have overtaken men now in the aggression/bullying department) but I am not sure some people (male & female) would feel comfortable posting on this forum at times.
There is no doubt, certain forum members dominate here - I also question whether some of them don't 're-invent' themselves from time to time. But I really cannot believe your assertion that you don't know of any 'other forum' xjay - since you do seem to know almost everyone in Newbury
.
I am not suggesting that you have re-invented yourself - I'm not sure you
could make up a 20 year old, home-owning, VW Golf-driving guy who can probably split the atom!! To be honest, most 20 year olds I know cannot even afford to leave home so you are right in your signature, you're not normal!! But you are funny and I enjoy your posts!